Dear He Says/She Says: My husband and I just bought a new house, right on the beach. It’s beautiful; it’s our dream house. Normally that would be great, but ever since we moved here, we get no privacy. Either his family or mine are always stopping by. And then there’s always people running up from the beach, either asking to use the bathroom or the phone, or inviting us to a party. My husband says this is part of living by the beach. I say it’s driving me crazy! What can we do to make it OUR home again? – Ready to Jump in the Ocean
He Says: Your husband is dead wrong in this case. First thing to do is put up No Trespassing signs around your property, or even a fence, if it’s allowed. Second, tell your families that just because you live at the beach it doesn’t mean it’s free vacation time for everyone. Remind them that it’s your house, and they should do like they always did – call first, don’t stay too long, and respect your privacy. You might hurt some feelings, but it’s better than losing your sanity. By the way, when can I come over for lunch?
She Says: Does this
mean I can’t come by and hang out at your
house?! Just kidding. Here’s what you do: Shut the blinds, take
the phone off the hook, and
Dear He Says/She Says: Ok, here’s the thing. My husband constantly invites this other couple over for dinner. He’s really good friends with the other man, and thinks that just because this other woman and myself both work in the same field (real estate) that we’ll have a good time together while the two of them talk it up. Problem is, I can’t stand either one of these people! They’re boring and annoying. My husband says I’m not trying hard enough. How can I put an end to this? – At the End of My Rope
He Says: Put your foot down and say you don’t like them and don’t want them coming over. Your husband ought to respect your wishes too. If he insists on them coming over, make yourself scarce; go out with your own friends. Also, let him know it’s his responsibility to cook and clean up afterwards. You’d be surprised how quickly he finds a way to meet his friend somewhere else.
She Says: Guess what?
You’re married; you need to make the occasional
sacrifice. Ask your husband if maybe he can make plans with the other
fellow outside of your house, like going to a game or a bar for a few
drinks, so that he can see his friend and you don’t have to deal
with the other couple. But don’t ask him to give up the dinner
parties altogether. Just grin and bear it.
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